4 Tips for Building Great Relationships and Winning in Life.
There is an African Proverbs that says “If you want to go fast, go alone but if you want to far, go together” implying that except we align ourselves to positive relationships, the achievement of any desired result remains distant. This leads me to conclude that there is a correlation between the calibre of our relationships and the fulfilment of one’s purpose.
The term Leverage implies any influence that is used to gain advantage. In other words, it involves maximising the opportunity availed one in the advancement of their personal agenda.
This statement as selfish as it may sound is a truth that is relevant in the pursuit of one’s purpose.
Everyone has been called to “be” something according to Ephesians 1:11- “In Him also we have obtained an inheritance, being predestined according to the purpose of Him who works all things according to the counsel of His will” and as a result, no one should ever see themselves through the lens of mediocrity.
The people you surround yourself with largely dictate your destination as well as your perception. In Acts 4:13, we see that from the way Peter and John spoke, people knowing that they were uneducated men perceived that they had spent time with Jesus. This is only because Jesus Himself was an amazing Orator. See Matt 7:29.
The people you surround yourself with will largely dictate your destination as well as your perception. In Acts 4:13, we see that from the way Peter and John spoke, people knowing that they were uneducated men perceived that they had spent time with Jesus. This is only because Jesus Himself was an amazing orator. See Matt 7:29.
From this, it is without doubt that the people who we surround ourselves with will determine whether we succeed or fail in life. We all need people to progress in life, for no one is an island.
I once heard Bishop David Oyedepo say that there are no great men anywhere but only HELPED men.
At one stage of life or another, we will need the help of others particularly in the fulfillment of our destiny. There is an old African proverb that states that “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together”.
So If this is the case, then the question to be asked will be “What Must I Do in order maximize the opportunity around me? for we must realize that what we need to advance in life is either in the hands of the persons we know or we are yet to know.
I have been able to come up with four fundamental things we will need to do in order to make the best of the relationships around us.
1. Select people based on their destination.
I often say that “Life is an airport” and for the fact that you met someone at the airport doesn’t mean you are both headed towards the same destination. So before you both sit at the lounge of life, always ask yourself, Am I headed in the same direction with this person? The company you keep is what determines what accompanies you.“Life is an airport” and for the fact that you met someone at the airport doesn’t mean you are both headed towards the same destination". Click To Tweet
Seek to be a genuine helper and add value to everyone you come across. Joseph in Genesis 40- It was the ability of Joseph to interpret dreams and the managerial skills that he developed in Potiphar’s house that set him apart in the palace. Seek to be the solution to people problems around you.
2. Seek to be a genuine helper and add value to everyone you come across.
In Genesis 40- It was the ability of Joseph to interpret dreams and the managerial skills that he developed in Potiphar’s house that set him apart in the palace. Seek to be the solution to peoples’ problems around you.
Every problem around you is God’s opportunity to uplift you. I was meditating on this passage Gen 40 and the Holy Spirit made me understand why Joseph was initially forgotten in the prison. You see, Joseph was seeking for a mere escape but God intended his elevation.
And so God had to cause a problem in Pharaoh’s household that suited the giftings of Joseph. The gift of a man maketh way for him Prov 18:16
You were created to solve problems. Your worth is determined by the value you bring to other. Jesus gave one of the greatest secrets to building relationships by saying “do unto others as you want others to do unto you”- Matt 7:12. A man of God once said that “the wisdom of God is in the reverse”. In other words, what you want people to do for you is what you should be doing for people already in order to attract that which you desire.
3. Develop yourself
You are only of a good value as you are to yourself. You are only of a good value to others as you are to yourself. The lawyers will say nemo dat quod non habet- you cannot give what you do not have. Everything that grows, grows by knowledge. your value to knowledge must be enhanced. What premium do you place on knowledge?
4. Develop a good attitude
Attitude is everything, I have seen the brightest of people being stagnated due to bad attitude. A bad attitude is like a flat tyre. If you don’t change it, you will never go anywhere- Zig Ziglar.A bad attitude is like a flat tyre. If you don’t change it, you will never go anywhere- Zig Ziglar. Click To Tweet
Prov 18:24 puts it best by stating that “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly….” You may be the most brightest but a bad attitude will always hinder your progress in life.
How to win friends and influence people- Dale Carnegie
Winning with People- John C Maxwell.