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  • HOW TO WIN THE BATTLE OF INCONSISTENCY

    HOW TO WIN THE BATTLE OF INCONSISTENCY

    In a world where everyone has a desire to achieve their goals and get closer to their dreams, having an intention to succeed is not just enough when compared to the opportunity cost of non achievement. I once came in contact with a quote that says “To Dream Is Free But The Hustle Is Sold Separately”.

    Based on research, the cyanide that destroys the fruition of any dream or the achievement of any goal is INCONSISTENCY. For those proficient in baking, you will know that the consistency of the stir dictates the taste and outcome of the dish being made.

    Inconsistency in the past has driven a wedge between a leader and his followers. Scott Mautz once said that “Our visible actions should always match up with our words or else people will become confused and begin to tune out. Relatedly, a brand that doesn’t follow through on its promises will never be bought again. And managers who don’t follow through on what they say they will do will never have anyone buy into them, their decisions and direction, again, either.”

    The malady of inconsistency one can say ranges from denied promotion, damaged relationships to most importantly the demise of one’s dreams, for it is in the attainment of a desired goal that the fulfillment of life lies. Stephen King- The prolific writer once quoted that “Talent is cheaper than table salt. What separates the talented individual from the successful one is a lot of hard work”.

    Consistency is one key trait of the hard working that even King Solomon, the author of the Book of Proverbs– a fantastic book on wisdom suggested that it is the diligence of one in his business, that causes him to stand before kings and not mean men (paraphrased). This statement in effect poses the question- “What can I do to be consistent? But before this is addressed, It is imperative to highlight that the root cause for inconsistency lies with FEAR. Fear of failure, the fear of not being equal to the required task as when compared to others. This is what I would regard as the “Not Good Enough Syndrome”- N.G.E.S. But the truth remains that everyone who achieved their set target wasn’t necessarily based on the premise of competency alone but on dedication, for its in the dedication one’s craft gets sharpened.

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    So how can one remain consistent in a noisy world with various things calling and competing for our attention and time. For some it may be the attention demanded from parents by children. For others it could be the demands of their day jobs in other to keep the ship of life afloat and while others it may be the attention that is  demanded by a spouse in order to keep the marriage aflame. Regardless of what these seeming demands may be, below are suggestions that I have observed in the life of those who have threaded this same path and reached their promise land.

    1.  Make The Decision
    2.  Write the Vision
    3.  Be Accountable
    4.  Revisit the Vision

    1. Make a Decision

    Indecision is the cancer that spreads over the dreams of a person and in no time, such a dream is dead. Dreams are like babies and if not fed, in no time, they die. A decision must be made on taking actions towards the achievement of a set target. Many people celebrate their intentions at the expense of not taken relevant actions towards the realization of their intent. One may play it safe for so long at the shores of indecision, but until one deeps their foot into the ocean, one may never know how deep the water is. No matter how lofty an intention may be, until a decision is made to take forward steps, it will remain a mirage. This is why it is said that “A dream written down with a date becomes a GOAL. A goal broken down into steps becomes a PLAN. A plan backed by ACTION makes your dreams come true- Unknown”. Actions must always be in tandem with the vision at heart or the dream in mind.

    2. Write the Vision. 

    It is believed that there is a correlation between goals written down and its accomplishment. Dr Gail Matthews, a psychology professor at Dominican University in California, did a study on goal-setting with 267 participants. She found that you are 42 percent more likely to achieve your goals just by writing them down. So in a bid to ensure that consistency is maintained, pen that goal down.

    3. Be Accountable.

    The importance of accountability can never be over emphasized. Quite recently, I set a goal of losing 20 kg in 90 days and I tell you that the reason why I have been progressing is only because I made myself accountable to the people whose opinions matter to me. This in effect put me in a position of not giving excuses but putting in the relevant work required to achieve my goal. Excuses remain as the road blocks to the achievement of our set goals.

    4. Revisit The Vision

    As the saying goes “Out of Sight, Out of Mind”. A goal you do not constantly review will in no time fade away. In order to ensure consistency, put the written down vision in plain sight, for this serves as a reminder of what needs to be done and this as well, enables the mind to deduce ways of achieving them.

    In conclusion, always remember that “Until you are consistent, No one will take you serious.-Unknown”. Consistency is an art that when often practiced leads to the opening of doors that lead to the fulfilment of destiny.

  • THIS THING CALLED PURPOSE

  • MARRIAGE: ITS A PURPOSE THING

  • HELLO AND WELCOME TO MY SPACE.

    Hello there and thank you for visiting my website.

    Here is a little information about me. I am a Christian by faith, a Chartered Accountant by profession and a coach to those who need my help. I am married to the most beautiful woman in my world and blessed with three lovely children.

    I am passionate about helping people and small businesses discover their purpose and fulfilling their greatest potential. I also currently live and pastor a church in Swansea, Wales, UK. 

    In 2014, I started a personal deveoplment seminar called “Being the Best of You”. This was aimed at helping individuals as well as businesses discover their purpose, gain clarity and maximise their potential. I also started another workshop- Being The Best Graduate Hire which is structured at not just helping millenials become the ideal hire for an emploers but also help them thrive in the market place.

    In 2013, He was featured on the BBC, where He got to share his story, which He believes has inspired many to pursue their dreams and fulfil their potential.

    If you believe we could work together, feel free to email me at contactjeffrey@jeffreynsofor.com

  • MUST I BE A CUT-THROAT DICTATOR TO BE A GREAT LEADER OR BUSINESS MAN?

    The Essential Factors Needed To Become an Outstanding Leader with a Positive influence.

    There has been an age long debate as to what Leadership style is deemed to be the best, given the varying trends of affairs in the marketplace as well as the fast paced competition witnessed by many businesses. The panacea to this  debate is one that is mostly likely to remain a mystery as its participants seem to either favour The Authoritarian/Dictatorship, The Paternalistic, The Democratic or The Laissez- Faire style of Leadership. In other words, there is no one universally accepted style.

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  • WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR TRAIN HAS LOST ITS STEAM

    How to get yourself back on track and maintain the clarity of purpose

    As a result of the limited life of man, there is often tendency for people to want to experience all the good things of life all at once, forgetting that the mere thought of considering the best option amongst the plethora of opportunities available is exhausting in itself. This misguided pursuit of several things all at once has led many to experience burn-outs, nervous breakdowns as well as  destroying valuable relationships with those that matter the most in their lives.

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  • MY MARRIAGE IS NOT AS ROSY AS I THOUGHT

    4 Reasons Why Most People Describe Marriage As ‘Hard’

    Marriage has been one institution that I have come to truly love; not just for its sanctity and the companionship but also, for more on the fact that it is the platform upon which the society is built. Over time, I have listened to people give various views and counsels on marriage and these have mainly been premised on their respective experiences. I dare say however, that people’s perspective are usually hinged on their experiences and thus will always be subjective because each person’s case is peculiar to them. People’s perspectives and views can also vary based on the quality of information they have obtained or have access to.

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  • WHY YOUR MONEY SEEM TO HAVE WINGS

    The 3 Habits that separate the Very Poor People from the Very Wealthy People.

    Have you ever felt like you earn money but yet it seems to fly away all of a sudden, leaving you in bills unpaid, needs yet to be met and an unsettling pain of uncertainty in your stomach?

    Habits in my opinion are only a collection of certain actions that when done repetitively becomes part of oneself and just like the way every software installed on a computer has an un-install function, so does Habits. King Solomon the Biblical sage once said in his book of proverbs “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he”. Having pondered deeply on this, it suffices to say that the difference between poverty and riches is ones mindset.

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  • 3 REASONS WHY WINNING THE LOTTERY WON’T CHANGE YOUR LIFE

    The journey through hard work in gaining financial freedom

    If you are like me, you must have had one of those days when you were seemingly broke and you thought to yourself- What if I won a £1 Million in the lottery? How cool will it be for me to get my wife that jewellery she always wanted, buy my parents that dream house, get my dream car or even take my family on holidays.

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  • 3 WAYS TO MAKE YOU THINK SMARTER

    Discovering ways to stay mentally sharp and solution driven.

    I recently came across a quote that said ” You are the same today as you will be in five years, except for two things: the people you meet and the books you read. We live in a time and age where one’s life is estimated by his or her fashion trend, the car driven or the coziness of their place of abode but the reality is that information, knowledge and ideas have always been the catalyst that brought about a change in any establishment.

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