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There is an African Proverbs that says “If you want to go fast, go alone but if you want to far, go together” implying that except we align ourselves to positive relationships, the achievement of any desired result remains distant. This leads me to conclude that there is a correlation between the calibre of our relationships and the fulfilment of one’s purpose.
The bible makes us understand that everyone has been called to “be” something according to Ephesians 1:11- “In Him also we have obtained an inheritance, being predestined according to the purpose of Him who works all things according to the counsel of His will” and as a result, no one should ever see themselves through the lens of mediocrity or insignificance.
The people you surround yourself with largely dictate your destination as well as your perception. There was this old story of two men- Peter and John who were tagged as uneducated and uncouth, but as a result of their relationship with their Mentor, their speech changed and people who watched them overtime knew that it could only have been because of their relationship with this Mentor.
From this, it is without a doubt that the people we surround ourselves with will determine whether we succeed or fail in life. We all need people to progress in life, for no one is an island. Someone once said that there are no great men anywhere but only HELPED men. At one stage of life or another, we will need the help of others particularly in the fulfillment of our destiny.
So If this is the case, then the question to be asked will be “What Must I Do in order maximize the opportunity around me?” , for we must realize that what we need to progress in life is either in the hands of the people we know or we are yet to know.What we need to advance in life is either in the hands of the persons we know or we are yet to know. Click To Tweet
In this article, I have been able to come up with four fundamental things we all need to do in order to make the best of the relationships around us.
1. Select people based on their destination.
I often say that “Life is an airport and the fact that you met someone at the airport doesn’t mean you are both headed towards the same destination”. So before you both sit at the lounge of life, always ask yourself, Am I headed in the same direction with this person? The company you keep is what determines what accompanies you. History is replete so many stories of those who either failed because of the company they kept or the relationships they fostered.
2. Seek to be a helper than a user.
A genuine helper will always seek to add value to everyone they come across, a user will always seek for opportunities that advance their selfish ambitions- always taking and never giving. There’s is a story in ancient Egypt of an enterprising young man called Joseph. This young man was diligent and had the ability to interprete dreams. It was this ability and his managerial skills that which he developed in Potiphar- his master’s house that set him apart in the palace. Seek to be the solution to peoples’ problems around you and watch how they will bend over backwards to see you succeed. Unfortunately we live in a generation where we have more “users” than helpers.
Every problem around you is God’s opportunity to distinguish you from the crop. In the story of Joseph earlier, had it not been for the chaos at hand, Joseph would not have had the chance to put his gifting on display. Indeed the gift of a man does make way for him.
Always remember that you were created to solve problems and your worth is determined by the value you bring to others. Jesus gave one of the greatest secrets to building relationships by saying “do unto others as you want others to do unto you”. This in itself is true. Someone once said that “the wisdom of God is in the reverse”. In other words, what you want people to do for you is what you should be doing for people in order to attract that which you desire.
3. Develop yourself
You are only of good value as you are to yourself. The lawyers will say “nemo dat quod non habet” meaning “you cannot give what you do not have”. Everything that grows, grows by knowledge. your value to knowledge must be enhanced. What premium do you place on learning and knowledge? Mediocrity has always been the ageless invisible cage that has held many people bound. Never settle for less.Mediocrity has always been the ageless invisible cage that has held many people bound. Never settle for less. Click To Tweet
4. Develop a good attitude
Attitude is everything, I have seen the brightest of people being stagnated due to a bad attitude. A bad attitude is like a flat tyre. If you don’t change it, you will never go anywhere- Zig Ziglar. King Solomon puts it best by stating that “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly….” You may be the most brightest but a bad attitude will always hinder your progress in life. Some excuse their bad attitudes to their upringing but we must remember that we are absolutely responsible for the happenings in our lives.A bad attitude is like a flat tyre. If you don’t change it, you will never go anywhere- Zig Ziglar. Click To Tweet
In summary, the people around you will only be committed to seeing you succeed when you have placed on premium on solving their problem and being a blessing to them. This is why the bible says that “It is MORE blessed to give than it is to receive”. I wrote an article on the books and podcasts that change me life. I will keep adding to this list as time goes on. Feel free to check it on by clicking here. For the sake of this article, I will recommend the following books;
1.How to win friends and influence people- Dale Carnegie
2.Winning with People- John C Maxwell.
Till next time, cheers to Being The Best of You.